My ex and I have been been broken up for four months now. We were in a long distance relationship, we were both full-time students and worked full time. We both made mistakes in our relationship and we've accepted that. He recently started messaging me that he loves me and wants to be in my life, but he hasn't shown me. I guess I'm just scared of getting hurt again or hurting him. How can two people mend their relationship and move forward? Is it possible?
Thank you for sharing your situation. It’s important to pay attention to how people behave in a relationship. That means watching to see if their actions match their words.
It’s always beneficial to proceed cautiously in any relationship so you can take care of yourself and move your life in a positive direction. You might find it helpful to have many conversations with him where you talk calmly and kindly about things that are important to you and listen to each other. As you learn more about him, you can decide what’s best for you.
The idea is to get to know each other really well and communicate at a level where you can work together to mend your relationship. Consider taking it slowly and having many conversations before advancing to the fixing phase. Only move forward when he’s consistently behaved the way you want him to. Once you trust that he means what he says, you can work on a plan together to build a positive relationship.
Remember that you deserve to be with someone who values who you are and is willing to take the time to work on things.