Relationship Questions and Answers
He Hates When Other Guys Look at Her

He Hates When Other Guys Look at Her

Question

Which do you think is better: A guy who lets his girlfriend do what makes her happy, like dancing and performing or even something as simple as an exercise class just because she wants to do it for fun, or a guy who loves his girlfriend so much he hates when guys look at her so he tries to convince her not to do these things she loves. Wouldn't it make sense that, if he really loved her, he'd care more about her happiness?

Answer

Thank you for your question. It’s incredibly important to fully support and encourage one’s partner as they pursue their dreams and do things that make them happy.

It’s unacceptable to keep someone from doing things they love and that lead their lives in a positive direction. When someone keeps another person from doing things they enjoy it’s usually a sign of jealousy, unhappiness, insecurity or control issues and it has a negative effect on the relationship.

The idea in any healthy relationship is to be with someone who encourages and loves that fact that you’re you and you’re doing things that make you happy.

I Like a Guy but His Best Friend Likes Me

I Like a Guy but His Best Friend Likes Me

Question

I like this guy, but his best friend likes me and asked me out. I said no to him and I'm wondering if the guy I like won't like me now because I rejected his best friend? I feel like maybe he won't want to be anything more than friends because I hurt his friend.

Answer

Thank you for sharing your situation. You really can’t do anything about how other people behave in any relationship. You might find it helpful to just be yourself and be friendly with the people involved. Keep hanging out with them, talking with them and getting to know them if you’d like. Over time you’ll have a better idea of what’s going on.

The key is to remind yourself that you’re great no matter what other people think. Live your life positively, behave kindly and be the best you possible and you’ll worry less about anyone else. Remember that you deserve to hang out with people who appreciate who you are and want to spend time with you.

Should I Stay or Go?

Should I Stay or Go?

Question

My fiance and I have been together for 8 years and we have a 4-year-old daughter. I have been asking myself for a while now why am I still here? I love this man to death, he is my best friend and don't want to hurt him. I am going to start school again in the summer and doubt that he is really going to be there for me like last time I went to school when our daughter was 6 months old. It is so hard to do alone. He is okay with mediocre, and I want more from life. I CAN'T decide if I should stay or go.

Answer

Thank you for sharing your situation. One of the most valuable lessons in life is to realize how wonderful you are and what amazing potential you have. In a positive relationship, these are qualities that are desirable and encouraged.

Perhaps you might do some thinking about what you really want to do deep down inside and what will bring you the most positive results in your life. Take some time to celebrate who you are and plan what you would like to do.

You can’t do anything about how other people react when you follow your dreams or build yourself up but you can be your own best supporter. In life, you get to decide what brings you fulfillment and happiness. Remember that you deserve to live the life you want and be surrounded with people who support your every move.

He Doesn’t Want to Marry Me Anymore

He Doesn’t Want to Marry Me Anymore

Question

My boyfriend suddenly isn't sure about our future anymore and won't say that he's going to stay with me and marry me like he used to tell me all the time. He still says he loves me with all his heart and soul and will fight as hard as he can to stay with me, but why won't he say that he's going to marry me anymore? He's been stressed and depressed lately but I didn't think it would work its way into our relationship. What can I do?

Answer

Thank you for sharing your situation. You can’t do anything about what someone else thinks or does in a relationship but you can take care of yourself. You get to decide what you want in a relationship and what behavior is acceptable.

You might want to take some time to think about what you need and then talk calmly and kindly with him. Ask him questions and listen carefully to the answers without interrupting or reacting negatively. Gather information so you can decide what you want to do next.

The key in any healthy relationship is to be with someone who communicates openly with you and wants to be with you. Remember that you get to decide what you need and how you want to be treated. You’re worth it.

Faking Orgasms

Faking Orgasms

Question

How do I tell my boyfriend of two years that I've been faking orgasms? Its kind of a touchy subject and I don't know when or how to bring it up. I feel awful about it, not only because I'm lying but also because he's gonna be so upset. Any ideas on how to break it to him? I'm seriously at a loss. I don't want to completely shoot him down but I don't want to sugarcoat it too much either.

Answer

Thank you for sharing your situation. It’s always a good idea for people in a relationship to be honest and open with each other about any issue. The key is talking about it in a respectful and compassionate way.

You might consider telling him how you feel and what you need. Do it calmly and kindly and as directly as possible. Try to stay away from saying “you” and focus instead on how you feel or what your thoughts are. Be gentle and friendly.

You can’t do anything about how he reacts. Just listen to him without interrupting or reacting negatively. Learn about his perspective. Once you listen to each other you can decide what you want to do to work on it together. The idea is for both of you to find a mutually beneficial solution.

In any relationship, it’s also OK for you to talk about what you need and what works for you. Remember that you deserve to be in a relationship where you are both honest and open with each other.