My boyfriend and I have been together for a few months now and we're having the best time together! But he has this girl mate I'm also friends with and I know they've always been close and I'm absolutely fine with it! I trust him 100% but I don't trust her 100%. She's forever flirting with him making me feel extremely uncomfortable. I let my boyfriend know how I felt and he felt awful, reassuring me that I was his and she wasn't, but what do I do to feel less uncomfortable around them?
Thank you for sharing your situation. It’s very positive that you’ve let him know how you feel. It’s always a good idea to let people know what you want and do it in a calm, kind manner.
You get to decide what you want in a relationship and how you want to be treated. You might find it helpful to have some kind and calm conversations with your boyfriend where you tell him how you feel and ask him questions. Talk when you’re both relaxed and have time, not when you’re in the middle of a difficult situation. Make sure to listen to each other without interrupting, arguing or rebutting.
The idea is just to talk about things and learn what’s really going on instead of guessing or reading into it. You might also want to watch his behavior. Pay close attention to what he actually does and decide if it’s acceptable to you. He’s currently sending you some clear messages. You might even let him know it’s great that he has a friend and that you’d like to get to know her too and see what he says and does.
Remember that you deserve to be with someone who focuses on you and values you. You get to decide whether his behavior works for you or not.