I met this guy on a plane 2 years ago and we saw each other a few times. He's the sweetest guy, the kind of guy you introduce to your family. Now there's my boyfriend: Although I liked the nice guy, I hooked up with my current boyfriend and he's pretty much the troubled guy. We've been together for 15 months though. Last week I wanted to break up with him for the nice guy but he started crying and telling me how much he loved me. I've never seen him like that and I never thought it was love coming from him, just physical attraction.
Thank you for sharing your situation. You get to decide what you need in a relationship and what kind of person you want to be with. It’s often helpful to look at the overall behavior pattern of the person. If they’ve behaved in a positive way, it’s likely they’ll continue to do so. If they’ve had some difficulties, it could easily keep going in that direction.
An important thing to remember is that one action doesn’t change a series of previous actions or a pattern of behavior. The only way you can tell if someone really means what they say is to watch what they do over time.
Remember that you deserve to be with someone who treats you kindly and behaves positively all the time.