My ex keeps bothering me he says he doesn't want me back but still he's acting jealous and bossy over me. I've said it a thousand times that he needs to back off but it doesn't really seem to help. What can I do to make him get over it?
Thank you for sharing your situation. You can’t change how anyone behaves in a relationship (or when it’s over) but you can take care of yourself and let him know what you need. You might think about having as little contact as possible. If he asks you something answer as briefly as you can. Be friendly but be brief.
The thing to avoid is being drawn into a discussion or having to defend your point of view. If he talks to you, keep telling him what you need and move on. Make sure not to initiate any contact from your end. It’s also a good idea to tell people you trust that this is going on so that you’re not dealing with it alone. Behaviors such as jealousy and bossiness are red flags indicating the person has control issues and it’s a good idea to keep a healthy distance.
Some people don’t know how to deal with a break up. That doesn’t mean that you’re responsible for how they behave, they need to heal themselves. All you can do is remind him kindly of what you need. Remember to keep living your own great life along the way and treating yourself well.