I had sex with a guy in a band that's always on tour. I've known him for almost a year prior and we always flirt and have mutual feelings. He still acts like he likes me since it happened. We live in different countries, so I rarely see him, but I want to at least try and make it work. How can I tell if he's really interested in me and not just sex when he's in town?
Thank you for sharing your situation. You show people how to treat you by what behaviors you’re willing to accept from them. A positive way to get to know someone is to talk with them on an ongoing basis. Get to know him by having conversations and keeping in touch. Ask him questions and listen to his answers, get a sense for what kind of person he is. Tell him about you and talk about things you enjoy.
You get to decide what kind of relationship you want and how you want to be treated. It’s always a good idea to choose someone who treats you well and values you as a person. Take some time to think about what’s gone on in the relationship so far; what you would keep the same and what you would change. The idea is to determine what you want in life and make decisions that help you move in a positive direction.
Remember that you deserve to be with someone who is there for you all the time and appreciates who you are. You’re a valuable and important person.