Relationship Questions and Answers

Never Been in a Relationship Before



Question

I'm close friends online with a man who is my age. We've known each other for three years. We're very close. I've never been in any relationship before. I am very shy. I don't really know what to do to start a relationship, or if I should bother considering the long-distance element. We communicate every day and listen, talk, and laugh with one another all the time. We click so well. I just don't know how to start!

Answer

Thank you for sharing your situation. It will be up to you to decide how to proceed with your relationship. You might consider talking with each other about what’s the next step in the relationship. It’s very positive that you both communicate well so you might find it beneficial to use your communication skills to ask him a couple of questions and listen to what he has to say.

In any relationship, you don’t have to ask the perfect question or do things any certain way. Just be yourself and tell him how you feel. The more genuine you are the more genuine the relationship will be.

It sounds like you both already have a relationship of some kind. You might find it helpful to simply have a few conversations so you’re both on the same page and moving in a direction that works for both of you. Keep in mind that people aren’t always the same in person as they appear online or on the phone.

It’s wise to take plenty of time to get to know someone in person before you decide what’s next. The first few times you meet him in person you might also want to do it with other people present for safety and so they can give you feedback. Remember that you deserve to be with someone who meets your needs and treats you well in person.